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Sugarcube Battery 27 Jun @ 4:43am
Why do men date women with traits they dislike and complain about it?
Obligatory not all men.

Keep seeing this time lapse video of a dude waiting for his gf/wife (not sure) to get ready and every time this is posted, there will be comments from men echoing their gf/wife is like this too.

Ok but pick better then????

I hate Star Wars for example. So, I don’t go and date Star Wars fans.

The waiting thing is just an example. There are other common complaints like too much make up, too much reality TV, not playing video games, nagging, etc. Ok, just don’t date them?

I do not understand.
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Pocahawtness 27 Jun @ 4:56am 
When people are attracted to each other they see the good points they like. Later on they see the bad points they don't like. They then live under the misguided belief that they can change someone or that the good things outweigh the bad things (which they often don't).
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St✩rlight 27 Jun @ 4:58am 
Dumping people is unpleasant.
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NW/RL 27 Jun @ 5:00am 
You can love someone overall and dislike a habit / trait they have at the same time
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Original Cast Recording 27 Jun @ 5:01am 
Sometimes small complaints are a sign there's more wrong than they're admitting. Sometimes very successful couples nevertheless have small complaints that remain despite all the good things.

But I find those relationship videos to be cringe either way, tbh.
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miakisfan 27 Jun @ 5:04am 
Originally posted by Sugarcube Battery:
Obligatory not all men.

Keep seeing this time lapse video of a dude waiting for his gf/wife (not sure) to get ready and every time this is posted, there will be comments from men echoing their gf/wife is like this too.

Ok but pick better then????

I hate Star Wars for example. So, I don’t go and date Star Wars fans.

The waiting thing is just an example. There are other common complaints like too much make up, too much reality TV, not playing video games, nagging, etc. Ok, just don’t date them?

I do not understand.

If we could truly define how attraction works we would all be in happy relationships.
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Sugarcube Battery 27 Jun @ 5:08am 
Originally posted by Pocahawtness:
When people are attracted to each other they see the good points they like. Later on they see the bad points they don't like. They then live under the misguided belief that they can change someone or that the good things outweigh the bad things (which they often don't).

Just be pickier.

Originally posted by NW/RL:
You can love someone overall and dislike a habit / trait they have at the same time

True but must they complain with sexist overtones of “ha ha women, am I rite?”
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Sugarcube Battery 27 Jun @ 5:09am 
Originally posted by Original Cast Recording:
Sometimes small complaints are a sign there's more wrong than they're admitting. Sometimes very successful couples nevertheless have small complaints that remain despite all the good things.

But I find those relationship videos to be cringe either way, tbh.

I always assume that men who do the couple videos online like that have been neutered.

Originally posted by miakisfan:
Originally posted by Sugarcube Battery:
Obligatory not all men.

Keep seeing this time lapse video of a dude waiting for his gf/wife (not sure) to get ready and every time this is posted, there will be comments from men echoing their gf/wife is like this too.

Ok but pick better then????

I hate Star Wars for example. So, I don’t go and date Star Wars fans.

The waiting thing is just an example. There are other common complaints like too much make up, too much reality TV, not playing video games, nagging, etc. Ok, just don’t date them?

I do not understand.

If we could truly define how attraction works we would all be in happy relationships.

I don’t know about others but I feel less attracted to someone if they exhibit habits that I find annoying.
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East 27 Jun @ 5:27am 
It is not that men particularly abhor ladies who take time to get ready. Rather it is like a meme, all married men or men in relationship can relate to. Those comments are just some light hearted relatable jokes.

Idk how old you are to not realise this.
Last edited by East; 27 Jun @ 5:30am
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Angel in the Dark 27 Jun @ 5:29am 
People date for other reasons than love more often than not. So not surprising tbh
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sfnhltb 27 Jun @ 5:37am 
Why do women date/marry men and then want to change almost everything about them? This is hardly a one way thing. There are not infinite people in existence to find a perfect match, and even if there were none of us have infinite time to check all possible partners to find them.
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Angel 27 Jun @ 5:38am 
Perhaps the things that people love about the other person outweighs the negative, hence why they are together. Also different people just have differing opinions so there will always be something one may not like or understand about the other but they would love them for who they are anyway.
Last edited by Angel; 27 Jun @ 5:38am
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Abaddon the Despoiler 27 Jun @ 5:39am 
I see this happen more often with women. They get with a man thinking they can "change" him, when they fail they complain.
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Sugarcube Battery 27 Jun @ 5:48am 
Originally posted by sfnhltb:
Why do women date/marry men and then want to change almost everything about them? This is hardly a one way thing. There are not infinite people in existence to find a perfect match, and even if there were none of us have infinite time to check all possible partners to find them.

This type gets bashed constantly though. If anything, the bad traits of men get blamed on the women. She should have picked better, right? That’s a common criticism.

Meanwhile, “my wife? She’s annoying! / she won’t let me have any fun”, is a well accepted joke.
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BunnieBealla 27 Jun @ 5:58am 
"I like crazy women"
*gets a crazy girlfriend*
*also breaks up with her and complains about her being crazy*
men moment tea ☕️ uwu
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Sugarcube Battery 27 Jun @ 6:06am 
Originally posted by BunnieBealla:
"I like crazy women"
*gets a crazy girlfriend*
*also breaks up with her and complains about her being crazy*
men moment tea ☕️ uwu

You just described a few men I know :monstertrainpeek:
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