I'm going to briefly share with you what went on with the narcissist that i live with. I've suffered their mental abuse since i was the age of 8 years old . I've graduated college a few years ago and I'll be moving out in the next 3 months . Now.... 22 years is a long time to be suffering mental abuse from a person day in and day out. I defeated my narcissist but it took a long time .

Ok I'll cover some of the stuff i went through but I'll skim around and not make it too long.
Ages 13 - 15 he'd get mad about the smallest stuff like my fan not being on the highest setting in the summer . Typical parent nagging that isn't really that much but it got worse . Just every little thing would turn into a 5hr long to 8hr long rant about everything wrong in life . Still had no idea about narcissism at this point.

Ages 16-18 he started making up imaginary scenarios , what if situations , and pulling arguments out of thin air. No matter how positive the topic he'd switch the topic to something negative and then start ranting or saying something is my fault when it has nothing to do with me. The gas lighting " i didn't say that you said that "

Left for college , came back and it got way worse . Just everyday making up things and when called out on it claiming that me and the rest of the family was wrong. Right after college i said to myself " something is wrong with him " but i didn't know what. He'd say things and act like he had no memory of it and at first i thought it was a memory issue . That wasn't the case at all . He just can't take accountability and has an issue with being wrong no matter how small it is .

I never understood what these dramatic interactions were between me and him and it went on all my life . I told him about a skill i was learning about ( programming ) . He tried to tell me i was wrong .... so on the spot i told him to explain several basics to me . He didn't know that i taught myself 3 scripting languages and was building programs on my PC at the time. So we went back and forth and when i proved him wrong he said that everything he said ... i said and vice versa.
At the time this made me extremely mad and he feed off of it .

He'll ask dumb questions then act as if he never asked them or that you weren't listening . He'll then bait an argument. For example one of the classic one is for him to ask a question and when you answer ... he already has an argument ready. " who's made the best tacos you've ever had ? " Me : " My uncle " Him : " You a damn lie , how you goin say your uncle made you the best tacos ? " or " He asks you how do you feel about a situation and when you tell him he then disagrees with what you say and call you a liar .

This stuff never made any sense so one day about 7 years ago he'd previously went on one of his tangents after asking me a question about something random . I was in my room on youtube and i saw the word " Narcissism " I'm not a political person so i thought it was of those words like fascism , authoritarianism , liberalism etc. I clicked on the video and it was about 2-4 hours long explaining all the different types of narcissism .

All i could think to myself as i was watching that video and doing research is " That's him oh my god that's 100% him all day " I was like " You're telling me this dude has a mental issue ? " It makes so much sense mind you I've giving you all here on steam the extremely short version because I could write a book about it. Dude ... i argued with my dad every single day of my life for about 21 years straight .... do you know how that can destroy a person ? Luckily for me I'm still somehow sane and video games kind of help with that.

So ... after I'd spent 7 more years past the last point learning about it , I would pay attention to his rants an mentally point about what he was doing . I also saw some documentary by a navy seal and ex cia guy on how to deal with narcissists and it works . So at this point he basically came home and falsely accused me of something i didn't do . He then after going on a rant asks me if he gave me that same thing 8 years ago . I said well if that's the same thing that's been sitting their for 8 years then i guess so. He said i lied which i didn't . We as a family suggested that maybe he just forgot he went in what he was looking for . He went on an illogical tangent about how if this was a court of law they'd put him behind bars for telling the judge that he sometimes forget things . He said we tried to execute him by saying this .

He threatened to leave our family and never come back ( kind of wishing he did honestly ) .
He broke down on the phone crying to my mom saying we make him feel crazy . No.... this was all manipulation to make us feel bad for his own mental issues . He has since that day tried to bait me into arguments in front of our family but the last time he did it he loss yet again.

The final part i'll tell you about is exactly what happened last time he loss . I get called into the living area of our home because apparently " This involves me and we all need to talk about it " . My mom asked him to say what he wanted to say to me . He said he didn't have anything to say which was shocking to me. He asked " Does your mom often take your side or take my side ? " I said neither . He said " once again does she often take my side or your side ? " I said " I don't like the framing of that question because it implies that my mom would pick a side . She wouldn't , in fact she'd listen to what was said and form her own opinion " He then asks " what about me ( him ) ? " I said you also form your own OPINION and go off what you THINK ... For the first time he was just silent . He asked " How is our relationship on a scale of 1-10 ? " I said like a 6-7 " He asked why not a 10 ? I said because it's not perfect and he argue way too much how could it be a 10 ? 10 is perfect. He said " no relationship is perfect " I said exactly so why on earth would i label our relationship a 10 when its not ?

I found out later that the whole thing started because my mom made porkchops which i don't eat anymore . So my mom asked what am I ( her son ) going to eat. He said " I'm not going to worry about it " My mom said " wtf you mean you're not going to worry about it that's our son " It made her mad and that's how that started .

Silence .... He asked if you could change anything about me what would it be . I said " i wish you didn't get mad about every single thing and go on tangents then claim your not mad when we all can clearly see that you are " . Silence .....


I've stayed away from him , I don't talk to him unless I'm grabbing a plate of food and I'll be moving out soon. He still tries to bait me into stupid arguments but i never fall for it. I just treat him like you would a troll. You know how you don't take a toxic gamer online who says or makes up lies about you seriously ? That's how i treat him. He says something so that i can say " no its not " or " no i didn't " . I just let him say bs and then i kept going on with my own business . I state a fact one time and move on. I don't feed into his garbage anymore and it works wonders !

So far its been 14 months and he's been taking L after L after L . I recently got my birth certificate copy , social security card copy , and license on my own . Since I've done this he hasn't started any stupid arguments with me. In the next 3 months I'll be doing OTR trucking and running my own business living the good life free from drama.

Once you realize that a person is a narcissist and you know what mind games they're playing you can counter it and no longer be affected . Once their mind games stop working their world crumbles and they lash out.

Finally ... I'm free from the negativity .