I have friends that were mere cells within the very womb that I inhabited.

almost 30 years

More than 15 years back

28 years

I dont really make any new friends though... (the odd friend here and there, but its like my father says, most people only stay really close with a few people ( not counting family)

i dont know ricky

too far back for anyone to actually value them anymore.

its been going on too long, its sort of old hat.

infinity and beyond

I don’t has any frens irl, most of my Steam buddies I only met aboot a year ago.

Originally posted by Puggly the Grey:

I don’t has any frens irl, most of my Steam buddies I only met aboot a year ago. :Dogeface:

that's something. as long as you have someone to talk with. that's important sometimes.

Originally posted by Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...:

Originally posted by Puggly the Grey:

I don’t has any frens irl, most of my Steam buddies I only met aboot a year ago.

that's something. as long as you have someone to talk with. that's important sometimes.

True, talkin’ wif my Steam buddies, and especially salamander, has helped meh wif processin’ my grief after my floof boi perished.

my oldest friendship goes back 16 years.

as a child I had few friends.. and my best friendsip ended when I was forced to move school.
at middleschool starting age 12 I made my than best mate that lasted until I was 19.. he got married.. and his new wife effectively did not want me in his life.

than around 20 I got a new best mate we went to lanparty's weekly, went to same church etc.. this lasted until I was about 27, again he got married.. his wife DID like me, but what broke this friendship is him migrating to new zealand with her almost literly the opposide end of the globe.

than at 28 i met my current best friend.. he was already married with 2 kids, but the other 3 kids I have seen growing up, I have been like an uncle to all of them..
while this friendship now is much decreased I still got it...
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while i used to be with their family 3 times a week (at wednesdays we went to church together... biblestudygroup, and often I ate at their home (and helpted their kids with homework) before and we drank a little whiskey and talked a few more hours at my house after.. this ended when he left that church.
Next each thursday I visited, ate with them, and gave proper homework help to their kids..
-this ended basicly when his wife got a new (more serious) career.. and when gradually their lifes got buisy.. basicly when we started they had an open agenda.. now it was stuffed and they needed an evening with just the two of them which they now did not have. I understood no problem.. so these thursday ended too.
lastly the sundays.. 2 church services,... and I played boardgames with their kids, made handcrafts with them.. basicly it allowed her to do her hobby him to have a nap after a buisy week.. I basicly was there every sunday 10-18..
-this ended during that bloody covid... he like me does not believe in the covid hysteria.. his wife.. was more affraid.. and obey the whole don't see more than 2 people that are not in your household.
**by the time these 2 years of goverment bans on contact ended.. well not only was this habit now broken, they now used to have family over on sundays.. and those kids now teens who had little interest in visits from uncle anymore.. but sat rather behind their phones..
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lastly he moved to another town... about 2 years ago... about 3 hours cycling or 1 hour drive away (where before he lived within 10 minutes cycling)
this has not helped either.

in practice I visit his house about once every 3 months usually for a weekend (the house is massive, so it's easy to just stay over and go home the next day so we can have a drink without me worrying me having to drive home)
and he drops past mine about once every 4 months.. out his work too (he likes that more escape the buisy home a bit.. but well his wife aint often let him for she too does not want to deal with 5 teens long on her own:))
and we maybe call once a month for an hour orso..

basicly this friendship that once was 3 days a week intensive contact.. now is reduced to birthdays and new years eve mostly.
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so yeah.. people grow apart... even if you still like eachother.
it is why I am sad I am still single at 43..
the ONLY person thats will be with you everyday for true shared history is your wife.

it is what my mom said when my dad died.. they were 50 year married with him 80.. plus a couple years knew eachother.. missing a person to have shared history with..

and I get what she is saying it is what I miss about my ex gf the most.. even when I am over her.. I still find it sad.. that she and me were together since I was 27.. even if I meet somebody new... they never can share those years.. memories like still knowing my dad.. or the msn-chatsessions together (who even does that) heck even the chatrooms we met eachother (or any chatroom like it) don't excist anymore.. most restaurants and placed we went torn down..
so much changed in 16 years.


-so in my experience a good friendship lasts a decade.. maybe 2 if your lucky..

183 minutes.

decades

Yeah, you would have to be a AAA arsehole to lose childhood friends.

Kids make friends so easy, they can also be cruel as hell though.

Those old relationships are really all I got, ever since my "experience" back in 2018 with a work injury. I have no desire to make friends anymore. Can barely trust the people I know, I wont be able to trust anyone else I dont think, not again.

I'll pray for you. You should be able to trust your friends