Have found that if you start the game as King of Dhirim. You subsequently can't get married! You have the option but when you become betrothed, her father will then stay in either his castle or town and never venture out (which does happen to some of your other Lords as well!!) and every time you talk to him, he states that he is getting the feast ready. Unfortunately this never happens and you spend the next 365 days waiting and having to visit your betrothed at least once a week! At the end of the 365 days you fail your quest to get married. If you then try another Lady, same thing happens!!