A workaround for this that I have been using is to use a 3 or 4 piston system to help keep things aligned. I've been able to succesfully dock using the ring about 85% of the time with no damage occuring using this method. It takes patience to do it that way, however. The crash tolerance hasn't been so much of an issue for me as the strong magnetic pull. This excessive magnetic pull causes major misalignment in off-center placed ships and minor missalignment from time to time with a piston system to help keep things aligned. To the Author: If its possible, my recommendation is to reduce how strong the magnetic pull of the clamps is. This will help to reduce alignment issues. Another possible solution would be to simply increase the crash tolerance of the docking ring itself. Granted, I'm not a modder so I have no idea if either of those solutions is possible. Good luck, and great mod!

well when i try to do this with big ships my game crashes (proberly its trying to merge the two massive objects together )

I don't even have high mas ships, but aattatching two of them makes them freak out and destroy the lock. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong. Any suggestion?