Made obsolete as a mod, but made it into the base game. I'd say that goes to show how good your mod was.

Looks like this was made vanilla.

Normally it should automatically generate it for you once you run a save with the mod (either create a save with it or load a save with the mod)

what to do again if I dont have the xml in the folder?

You should now be able to give items to any non-hostile communities. Just make sure to enable the options in the settings file (CanGiveToNonAllyLooters, CanGiveToNonAllyNeutrals)

Just started a new game, and advanced the story to the tent city, and tried to 'gift' one of the tents outside that I demolished.

But I think now that I may have misunderstood what you mean by "allies". I thought you meant any friendly community that isn't hostile or bullying yours, like FEMA and tent city.

By allies do you mean when they appear as blue dots on the map?

In that case it'd be nice if you could also gift to any non-hostile community.

Hmm I'll look into that. Could you explain with more details what happened? Are you sure the character you tried giving items to is an ally to your community? Did the character have enough weight capacity to hold the items you chose to give?

I tried gifting items in Story mode, it did not work.

Man, you are intern developer for this game right now :)
Thank you for great work.

I hope that this gets added to the base game! It would be nice to be able to help out allied communities by giving them better weapons or other resources.